Wednesday, September 5, 2012

Why send a message to your ancestors?

A relationship does not end just because one person passes away.  We carry our dead with us: in our DNA, our memories, our culture, our hang-ups. Sometimes our guilt. But after their death, we can choose to have a relationship with the best part of someone, and let the worst parts go. We can forgive them. We choose what we carry forward.

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I originally wrote this for State of Formation because I found it troubling that so many of us seem disconnected or even fearful of our departed ones. The article was a start, but now I hope to help people reach inward to their own psyche and back into their own history.

What message would you give to your ancestors? These can be people you knew in life, or those who passed away many generations ago. 

Please leave a comment or email Your message will be handwritten and displayed in the Spiritual Space at the New Orleans Healing Center for the Anba Dlo Festival. Afterwards, they will be respectfully offered into a fire and the ashes put into the Mississippi near the headwaters. They will make the journey from your thoughts to manifestation, from Minneapolis (where I live) to New Orleans, then back to the headwaters of the river and down to the Gulf. Like our own history, coming forward and looping back. Connecting us.

The past is not silent. It speaks to us all the time. Isn't it time we replied? 

Gede (Spirit of death) veve (geometric representation) on fence leading to Ashade Meadows Peristyle, New Orleans


  1. I love you, Grandma. I didn't see much of myself in you when I was a child, but I see it now. I now can clearly see your strength and resilience, your patience and lightheartedness. I can't imagine all the struggles of your life, how you overcame the death of your daughter, the cancer and health issues, the poverty. But I can clearly remember your smile and laughter, your hugs, the beam of joy on your face. Thank you for giving me many wonderful memories, and for all the traits that I carry proudly in your name.

  2. "Aruba". God, I still love you. i learned so much about life and love from you and I miss you still. I am better for having known you and loved you and felt your love. Thank you for loving me. Your soul lives on in my memories.

  3. Gramma, I love and miss you. What a wonderful woman you were. I feel your presence and I know you have met my children. You live on in me and in them. I carry your inner strength and love with me.

  4. Dearest Father, Lion-hearted Sun soul...I walk with you in the Dreamtime...and feel you with me...Thank you for encouraging my brave heart, even when I did not realize it. I miss you and know you are assisting my growth still. I am sorry and I love Little Girl

  5. It's my dad's anniversary, it's tough...but a mssg for him" daddy miss u, remember every little thing u taught us, if only we could have changed few things. The pain is so scattered, hope U will forgive us for our ignorance, wish to be directed always.